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Danielle cherished family, friends and life. She had her whole life planned
out; her husband, number of kids, two dogs and would be a dermatologist, a career
where she could help others but have time for her family. 
Christi had just enrolled in college. She just began taking First Baptist Church
shuttles downtown every Thursday to befriend the homeless. Just chit chatting
with them and letting them know they had a friend. In her journals, she was
determined to turn her life around and she started by helping others. She volunteered
often for the M.U.S.T. Ministries to help set up their clothing shop for the
homeless and the children's center. She helped cooked their meals. She helped
do their laundry. She wanted to go into a field helping others. She would have
changed at least one person's life, for the better, when they thought there
was no more hope. She didn't show up last Thursday. She died. 
Mark suffered a brain injury at the age of 19 the night of a high school prom.
Mark died at the age of 25. Life was hard for Mark, he lived an aphasic life.
Mark struggled to relearn his alphabet and to speak again. Neuro rehab, drug
rehab, jails, institutions and death. Mark was disabled and a fighter all at
the same time. College, heavy equipment operator, volunteering were all part
of these six years. Mark loved kids and wished he had one. Due to the selfish
reasoning of his so called friends, Mark will never be able to achieve his dreams
that he fought so hard for. Mark's struggle is over !! PEACE.......... 
In the months before she was killed, 21-year-old Anke Furber had been acting
scared and she seemed to know she was in danger. Several days after Furber's
charred remains were discovered in a small vineyard in Norcross, Anke's mom,
Ria, found a note in Anke's desk at home in Marietta. In it, Anke seemed to
foreshadow her own death. She wrote, "My parents would surely grieve the loss
of their wonderful daughter whose craziness would soon lead to her slaughter".
Ria isnt sure exactly when the note was written, but believes it was written
in a close time frame to the actual murder. 
At 22 years old, Levi had goals and ambitions of being a business owner, a husband
and a father. He loved his family and friends with everything in him and would
do anything for you. His shyness and manners we're a shining attribute to who
he was. Unfortunately, Levi befriended someone who for nearly three years took
advantage of his kindness and when asked to leave his home, he killed him. If
he would have just walked out the door as asked, Levi would still be here today.
We'll never know all the wonderful things that Levi would have accomplished,
but we know he was a "Friend" till the end. 
Ephraim was 21 yrs old when he prematurely transitioned to the other side. He
was a very warm hearted young man. And was always available to help friends
and family. As his cousin Ben said about him: "You can lay a 1,000. on the table
and know completely that Ephraim would have never taken it". He spent most of
his days at Antique World in Clarence , NY which was owned and operated by his
Uncle. That was my sons world. A world he will no longer be able to participate
in. He is sorely missed by his family and friends. 
His friends describe him as a kind, warm hearted, full of energy, always smiling,
and a very silly young man. They also said that whenever Sean walked into a
room that he had the ability lighting up the room because he was full of life
and energy! He loved his dad, his mom, and his sister very much. He had a very
special bond with his great grandma Efford and his great aunt Charlene whom
also up in heaven with him. A warm hug from Sean was just another way that he
showed his affection to his family and friends 
When Cayte was in the middle school she was on the track team, she was a cheerleader
for the Nor-Roc Vikings, she was on a soccer team, and she loved attending the
dances at the Sad Cafe. When she went to high school, all of those activities
stopped. The sad reason was because she was too old. All the kids have, once
they reach high school, are the woods and the homes of friends when the parents
are at work. If she had activities to do after school when she went to high
school, maybe this wouldn't have happened. 
From her birth to her passing Katty touched so many lives. Not only did her
family have the joy of watching her grow from a 6 pound baby girl to a beautiful
young woman, but so many others did as well. The lives she touched are too many
to fathom. Her beauty and grace preceded her where ever she went. Her heart
was made of fine gold and she cared for others always before herself. She was
not just special to all of us but to the Lord who saw fit to call her home at
such a young age. Her mansion was ready! When we think of Katty now we all can
be at peace because we know she is with her Lord, never to face this harsh world
we live in day to day. She is with us always when we remember her smile, her
touch, and her kind words. We all had the pleasure of being touched by an ANGEL!
We want our son's name to be Remembered and to bring hope and joy out of something
that has been the darkest and heartbreaking days of our families life. JP was
very out spoken and we have decided to be that way on this site and to be his
voice about the drug companies and the public official's that sit back and do
nothing. If we could save one person from what our family had to go Through
and is still going Through, it would be all worth it We will not stop until
the truth gets out. We want his memory to live on . 
Time has gone by so quickly and it seems like we haven't seen your face in forever.
Our hearts are broken, our tears flow so freely and our souls feel empty. Michael,
you left us with so many happy memories but the memories can never take your
place. We know you and your uncle Sam are saving a place for those who cherished
you the most. 
Two weeks before he died, Chuck called me on the phone. He was excited to tell
me he was joining the National Guard. He had begun to think about being a History
Teacher. He planned to attend school after basic training. He also mentioned
a new girlfriend. He was pretty crazy about her but wanted to give things a
little more time before making her "meet the parents". Still, we made plans
to meet for lunch once July wound down. He thought we might all get together
and told me not to worry, he had a job and would help pay the check. The first
time I met the young lady he was so crazy about was as she cried herself senseless
over his casket. She laid a broken heart chain and necklace across his hands.
She wore the mating half around her slender neck. Her courage in court helped
to solidify the deal that sent a drug dealer to prison. I hope she, and Chuck's
other friends, make the right decision and swear off drug use so we may never
see their faces on these pages. 
Everyone ever touched by Miranda. This will be a tribute to the life she lived.
She was the most remarkable and inspirational woman I have ever known. I was in
awe of my own daughter. Even as her mother, her beauty took my breath away, and
as she walked this earth from her crawling stages to adulthood her beauty from
the inside amazed me. Miranda loved about every living thing and each friend
she had she made her relationship with them special and unique. 
Jamie was a very loving son, brother, grandson, nephew, boyfriend and friend.. Most importantly he was the best father anyone could have asked for..
Even though he was only 16 when he was taken away from us from his so called friend, he did everything for his daughter and mother of his daughter
that he had asked to marry him when he turns 18.. Jamie was the type of kid that would take his shirt off his back for anyone that needs it..
Jamie died on April 23, 2008.. If only his so called friend (29 yrs old), his mother and the other people at the home called 911 instead of
waiting 3 hours, he would still be here with us today.. Jamie's dad passed away Nov 2005 and he had a hard time dealing with loosing his
father and could not believe he was gone.. Well now Jamie is at home with his dad..Until we meet again... I am proud of
you my son..Love you always and forever, Mommy 
Kaylin Marie Mathews was born on a Tuesday March 1, 1988. Kaylin was my oldest
child and my only daughter. She could play the piano, guitar, and drums and
loved to sing. She had been "spinning records" the last few years and
loved to mix music. She had been working as a d.j. at the time of her death and
was very good. Kaylin was an only child for 71/2 years. She has one brother
and one sister. She was a talented writer. She made jewelry and she could
draw. There was nothing that my baby couldn't do, if she wanted to. Kaylin
was left to die in a ravine on June 30, 2008. She was found on July 1, 2008.
Her date of death is listed as a Tuesday July 1, 2008. She was 20 years old. I
miss her every second of every day. The world lost an amazing talent and an
amazing young woman. I lost a part of my heart. 
R.J. was truly a blessing in our lives. He was the kind of son that most parents only dream of having. He always respected and
obeyed his parents and never got in trouble.
RJ was never in trouble in his life
RJ always called home to let us know where he was and when he would be home.
When he was missing and we couldn't reach him on his cell phone, we knew immediately something terrible was wrong.
This is a nightmare that no parent should have to go through and we are living it. Our concern is not what we are going through,
but what our son had to go through in his final moments of life.
William Michael Grandchamp better known as Billy, was born Nov 7,1979. HE was a only child. Billy had many friends. Billy often told his friends that his MOM was his best friend.
Billy liked to collect sports attire like jerseys and sports caps.Everything he wore had to match. He was meticulous with his clothing, car, and home.
Although, Billy had no children of his own he loved children. He told me his greatest wish was to find a good girl and settle down and have a family. That seemed to be very important to him. Even at a young age he had a gift with children.
Billy's friends have always commented on how good he was with their children and how their children loved him.
Billy was loved by so many people. He had over 800 friends and family members at his wake. Billy will be greatly missed by all his family and friends.
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Appeal court reinstates murder charge in Ontario overdose caseWill Bigham, Staff Writer Created: 05/01/2009 07:21:59 PM PDT A state court of appeal
reinstated murder charges Friday against an Ontario man
accused of A judge dismissed murder charges in October against Andrew Girvan, 32, ruling that there wasn't enough evidence presented by prosecutors at a preliminary hearing for Girvan to stand trial on murder charges. Miranda Daly, 23, died in August 2007 of a drug overdose at Girvan's home in Ontario. Prosecutors say Girvan supplied Daly drugs, and failed to seek help for her after she lost consciousness. Witnesses said Girvan threatened to kill other people at his home who suggested they seek medical care for Daly, of Corona. In its opinion ordering the murder charge reinstated, the court of appeal said Girvan demonstrated "implied malice" during Daly's death. "By his own admission, Girvan supplied drugs to the victim, his girlfriend," the court's written opinion says. "In addition, it can be inferred that he knew she overdosed, and that he actively prevented others from seeking aid for her by way of threats, despite knowing she was in mortal danger." The court ordered the Superior Court of San Bernardino County to set aside its order granting Girvan's motion to dismiss murder charge, and enter a new order denying the motion. "Obviously I'm happy about it," said Deputy District Attorney Mike Dowd, who is prosecuting Girvan's case. "I think Advertisement that it's the right decision. That's why we decided to take it up, because we thought he had an opportunity" the get the murder charge reinstated. "I'm happy for the victim's family that they'll get their day in court," Dowd added. The San Bernardino County Public Defender's Office has until May 11 to petition the California Supreme Court to review the appeal court's decision, Dowd said. After the murder charge was dismissed on Oct. 31, Girvan faced a manslaughter charge that carries a prison sentence of up to four years. With the murder charge now reinstated, Girvan faces 15 years to life, Dowd said. Donna Fernandez, the deputy public defender who represents Girvan, could not be reached for comment late Friday. will.bigham@inlandnewspapers.com (909) 483-8553 |
Ria Coesel - mom of Anke Furber and DD Flynn - mom of Christi Nowak
National Night Out Against Crimes and Drugs. Woodstock, Georgia
August 7, 2007
In Loving Memory Of Danielle Dawn McCarthy
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This Slide Show is dedicated to Danielle's Mom and Dad, Pat And Lisa McCarthy, To her Brothers and Sisters, and to her Extended Family and Many Friends. She is Loved and Missed By All.
Danielle and Her Family are Heroes and her Mom and Dad are helping make Heroes out of others. They are Indeed Very Special People. In their Plight and Fight for Justice of those that caused the death and stole the life of their daughter Danielle, they are busy helping others to find Justice for their Loved Ones that were Ripped away from those that truly loved them.
These are the words written by Danielle McCarthy's Mom and Dad upon realizing the Unimaginable Death of their Precious Daughter Danielle at the hands of those she was with that night.
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December 14, 2008 Mother wonders why no one helped her son
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overdose, friends left his body at hospital CAMPBELL COUNTY - The question of how Brandon Shaw's dead body came to be dropped off at a hospital during the summer still haunts his mother. The authorities concluded that Shaw, 20, died of a heroin overdose.
That answer came as a shock to his family, and the family wants further investigation. While they don't know what happened the night of July 12, Shaw's family wants to get his story to the public in hopes no one else will die as others fail to call 911. "What I don't understand is how five kids can come and go and watch somebody lay there and die and not do a thing, and there is no crime involved," said his mother, Sharon Dawson, of Grants Lick. "Dropping off a dead body at the hospital and leaving?" On the day he died, Shaw had put in a day's labor at the family farm in Grants Lick and spoke to his mother on the phone about 5 p.m. Sharon Dawson was out of town on vacation and didn't find any hints of anything amiss in her final conversation with her son. Shaw's jovial mood did not foreshadow his death within the next five hours, Dawson said. Her son had planned on going to a graduation party for a family member. "He was in a super mood," Dawson said. "He was telling me to stay out of trouble. I did not get a sign of anything wrong." Four hours later, one of his friends took his lifeless body and dropped it off at St. Luke Hospital East in Fort Thomas without staying to identify the body. He eventually returned that night. The autopsy said Shaw had morphine in his system, which could have been from heroin, and listed morphine intoxication as the likely cause of death. Campbell County Police have closed the case as a heroin overdose. Dawson wants to know what happened to her son on July 12 and hopes her son's story might lead to changes in the law compelling people to seek help for someone dying of an overdose. Shaw had quit a heroin addiction about two years before his death, Dawson said. If he relapsed, he didn't show any indication, she said. His work schedule kept him busy seven days a week. He put in more than 70 hours of work a week between his job at the farm supply store Southern States in Alexandria and the family farm, where he worked stripping tobacco, bailing hay and tending to the beef cattle and crops. In his free time, he hauled hay for neighbors and practiced taxidermy with his uncle. To Brandon's family, he seemed healthy. But several people on July 12 saw Shaw lying passed out on a couch at the Grants Lick house Shaw lived in with his mother and sister, according to the Campbell County Police report. Some said they saw Shaw taking heroin, the report states. The police interviews put a total of five people at the scene at various times that evening. Dawson finds most troubling about her son's death that several people saw him on her couch passed out, sweating and in obvious distress at least three hours before he was taken to the hospital. One 18-year-old had been there the whole night, the police report states. That man could not be reached for comment.
Shaw's family suspects someone might have injected him involuntarily. "I'm not disputing that my son was above taking drugs," Dawson said. "I want to know how the drugs got into his system." The 18-year-old friend of Shaw's who had been there the whole night told police he noticed blood and saliva coming from Shaw's mouth and called another friend to come over about 8:30 p.m., according to the Campbell County Police report. The friend he called, Landon Webster, said the scene was a nightmare. Webster, 20, arrived at 8:30 p.m. that night and saw Shaw unconscious on the couch. He claims he tried to save him with CPR. He said he tried to call 911, but the other man wouldn't let him and a scuffle ensued. "When I got there, it was filled with emotion and tears," Webster said. "He got in the way. I could count about a dozen times where fists were thrown." Webster said the other 18-year-old man took him to the hospital. Webster said he wishes in hindsight he could have called an ambulance. He said he didn't know what to do when he walked in and found his friend dying. He loaded Shaw into the car the other man used to drive to the hospital. "I wasn't there the whole time," Webster said. "If I was there the whole time, knew what happened, you best believe I would have called the cops." The police report said the 18-year-old man drove Shaw to St. Luke, where he was pronounced dead on arrival. The 18-year-old who brought him to the hospital stood around nervously before leaving, according to the police report. The hospital reports provided by the family said Shaw was cold to the touch and never showed any sign of life at the hospital. The autopsy report lists cuts below and above Shaw's right eye and a cut on the nose. Dawson said her son's body also had bruising around the neck. Police, however, said the evidence points to a heroin overdose as the cause of death and not murder, said Lt. Dave Fickenscher, who is in charge of Campbell County Police's detective unit. The injuries to the face did not contribute to his death, Fickenscher said. The witnesses said the injuries came from when Shaw was put in the car, according to the police report. There is no proof that anyone forcibly injected Shaw, he said. The law doesn't hold someone criminally liable for not trying to save someone's life during a drug overdose, Fickenscher said. "You can't hold someone criminally liable for failure to render aid when the person that died was partaking in something so dangerous as the use of illicit substances," Fickenscher said. Dawson hopes her son's story might lead to changes in the law. "I want to try to make it a law where if you see someone who needs aid, you should help them," Dawson said. Heroin use in the suburbs has grown from nonexistent a decade ago to a more familiar sight, law enforcement said. Heroin replaced OxyContin and prescription painkillers when law enforcement began to crack down on doctors prescribing the drugs, Fickenscher said. Now the Campbell County Police see several heroin overdoses a year. A review of records from the coroner shows heroin suspected in three overdoses in Campbell County last year and five this year, something unheard of at the beginning of the decade. Heroin in Campbell County came to the attention of the public in 2003 when some teenagers in southern Campbell County overdosed. That ignited public meetings among residents on how to address the situation. Campbell County and Highland Heights police in 2005 organized a blitz to nab heroin users. They followed residents driving into Over-the-Rhine to buy drugs. The blitz netted 116 drug users in six weeks, 90 percent of which were using narcotics, Fickenscher said. Now, heroin use is distributed among both the young and old, Fickenscher said. "I don't think people realize how epidemic this really still is," Fickenscher said. "I think it has gone away from what we used to see it. Where we saw it in high school, with people in their late teens and early 20s, it has broadened out." http://nky.cincinnati.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/AB/20081214/NEWS0103/812140373 |
Mom of dead addict helps other parents cope with drug deathsThe Atlanta Journal-Constitution Thursday, February 05, 2009 Ria Coesel tried for years to help her youngest child overcome drug addiction with everything from counseling to boot camp to rehabilitation. In a way Coesel is still trying to rescue her daughter, from obscurity. Her daughter Anke Furber, was found dead Sept. 25, 2005, in a vineyard in Norcross, about 30 miles from her Marietta home. Someone shot her, then set her body on fire.
Gwinnett police believe the slaying may have been drug related, but a suspect has never been identified. Coesel is fighting for justice even as she battles to raise public awareness about drug-related deaths. “I’m jealous sometimes of these people whose children died a normal death like a car accident. Isn’t that whacked?” Coesel said. “There is such a stigma with drug-related deaths.” Coesel spends several hours a day sitting at the computer in Furber’s old bedroom, surrounded by her stuffed animals and drawings. She monitors a Myspace page she set up to bring in tips about the slaying. Coesel has also reached out to others — facilitating a support group for grieving parents at The Compassionate Friends chapter in Marietta and becoming involved with a Web site called Friends Don’t Let Friends Die. The Web site memorializes children who died because their supposed “friends” failed to get them help. D.D. Flynn, another mother whose child is featured on the Web site, says she befriended Coesel several years ago “for all the wrong reasons.” She, too, lost a daughter to drugs. Flynn’s daughter, Christi Nowak, 20, suffered seizures from an overdose of cocaine, a date-rape drug called GHB and chloroform at her family’s home in Woodstock on Oct. 1, 2005. There were ropes around Nowak’s feet, poles on her legs and her face was covered with a deflated air mattress. Evidence at the scene also indicated that someone left her in distress rather than getting help. Woodstock Police have not been able to determine who was with Nowak when she overdosed, but that person could be charged with felony murder for providing drugs that resulted in someone’s death. A total of 28,723 people died of drug-induced causes in the United States in 2003, according to the National Center for Health Statistics. About 3.9 percent, or 583, of the 14,831 homicides in 2007 in which circumstances were known were drug-related, according to the FBI’s Uniform Crime Reporting Program. Both Coesel’s and Flynn’s daughters were first exposed to drugs in sixth grade. Steve Pasierb, president of the Partnership for a Drug-Free America, said most children have their first opportunity to try drugs in middle school. “We have to accept the fact that while prevention is important, kids do try drugs,” Pasierb said. “As a parent, look at it as a health threat to your kid, not a moral failing, not a legal issue. Protect your kids’ health by being engaged on this issue.” Partnership for a Drug Free America offers resources on how to respond when you suspect your child is using drugs on its Web site, www.drugfree.org. Parents need to open a dialogue with children about drugs, Pasierb said. Coesel hopes that sharing her daughter’s tragic story may prompt others headed down the wrong path to make a turnaround. “Even if we save one life, it is better than nothing,” Coesel said.
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Lawmaker wants people to call 911 for drug ODsMar, 1, 2009MELISSA SANTOS; melissa.santos@thenewstribune.com
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Danielle McCarthy might have survived an
Ecstasy overdose two years ago, if only her friends had
called 911 for help.
Man arrested in boy's death is releasedBy Jennifer SullivanSeattle Times staff reporter
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29-year-old man arrested in connection with the death of
a 16-year-old boy was released Monday night from the
Snohomish County Jail without being charged.
Teenager charged in overdose deathHe dumped woman's body in canyon, authorities sayBy Hans LaetzCorrespondentFriday, November 21, 2008
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20-year-old Agoura Hills woman overdosed on drugs a
friend gave her before she was found dead last summer in
a canyon in the Santa Monica Mountains, authorities said
Thursday.
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