Wednesday May 22, 2013
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Danielle cherished family, friends and life. She had her whole life planned
out; her husband, number of kids, two dogs and would be a dermatologist, a career
where she could help others but have time for her family.
Christi had just enrolled in college. She just began taking First Baptist Church
shuttles downtown every Thursday to befriend the homeless. Just chit chatting
with them and letting them know they had a friend. In her journals, she was
determined to turn her life around and she started by helping others. She volunteered
often for the M.U.S.T. Ministries to help set up their clothing shop for the
homeless and the children's center. She helped cooked their meals. She helped
do their laundry. She wanted to go into a field helping others. She would have
changed at least one person's life, for the better, when they thought there
was no more hope. She didn't show up last Thursday. She died.
In the months before she was killed, 21-year-old Anke Furber had been acting
scared and she seemed to know she was in danger. Several days after Furber's
charred remains were discovered in a small vineyard in Norcross, Anke's mom,
Ria, found a note in Anke's desk at home in Marietta. In it, Anke seemed to
foreshadow her own death. She wrote, "My parents would surely grieve the loss
of their wonderful daughter whose craziness would soon lead to her slaughter".
Ria isnt sure exactly when the note was written, but believes it was written
in a close time frame to the actual murder.
At 22 years old, Levi had goals and ambitions of being a business owner, a husband
and a father. He loved his family and friends with everything in him and would
do anything for you. His shyness and manners we're a shining attribute to who
he was. Unfortunately, Levi befriended someone who for nearly three years took
advantage of his kindness and when asked to leave his home, he killed him. If
he would have just walked out the door as asked, Levi would still be here today.
We'll never know all the wonderful things that Levi would have accomplished,
but we know he was a "Friend" till the end.
Ephraim was 21 yrs old when he prematurely transitioned to the other side. He
was a very warm hearted young man. And was always available to help friends
and family. As his cousin Ben said about him: "You can lay a 1,000. on the table
and know completely that Ephraim would have never taken it". He spent most of
his days at Antique World in Clarence , NY which was owned and operated by his
Uncle. That was my sons world. A world he will no longer be able to participate
in. He is sorely missed by his family and friends.
Mark suffered a brain injury at the age of 19 the night of a high school prom.
Mark died at the age of 25. Life was hard for Mark, he lived an aphasic life.
Mark struggled to relearn his alphabet and to speak again. Neuro rehab, drug
rehab, jails, institutions and death. Mark was disabled and a fighter all at
the same time. College, heavy equipment operator, volunteering were all part
of these six years. Mark loved kids and wished he had one. Due to the selfish
reasoning of his so called friends, Mark will never be able to achieve his dreams
that he fought so hard for. Mark's struggle is over !! PEACE..........
His friends describe him as a kind, warm hearted, full of energy, always smiling,
and a very silly young man. They also said that whenever Sean walked into a
room that he had the ability lighting up the room because he was full of life
and energy! He loved his dad, his mom, and his sister very much. He had a very
special bond with his great grandma Efford and his great aunt Charlene whom
also up in heaven with him. A warm hug from Sean was just another way that he
showed his affection to his family and friends
When Cayte was in the middle school she was on the track team, she was a cheerleader
for the Nor-Roc Vikings, she was on a soccer team, and she loved attending the
dances at the Sad Cafe. When she went to high school, all of those activities
stopped. The sad reason was because she was too old. All the kids have, once
they reach high school, are the woods and the homes of friends when the parents
are at work. If she had activities to do after school when she went to high
school, maybe this wouldn't have happened.
From her birth to her passing Katty touched so many lives. Not only did her
family have the joy of watching her grow from a 6 pound baby girl to a beautiful
young woman, but so many others did as well. The lives she touched are too many
to fathom. Her beauty and grace preceded her where ever she went. Her heart
was made of fine gold and she cared for others always before herself. She was
not just special to all of us but to the Lord who saw fit to call her home at
such a young age. Her mansion was ready! When we think of Katty now we all can
be at peace because we know she is with her Lord, never to face this harsh world
we live in day to day. She is with us always when we remember her smile, her
touch, and her kind words. We all had the pleasure of being touched by an ANGEL!
We want our son's name to be Remembered and to bring hope and joy out of something
that has been the darkest and heartbreaking days of our families life. JP was
very out spoken and we have decided to be that way on this site and to be his
voice about the drug companies and the public official's that sit back and do
nothing. If we could save one person from what our family had to go Through
and is still going Through, it would be all worth it We will not stop until
the truth gets out. We want his memory to live on.
Time has gone by so quickly and it seems like we haven't seen your face in forever.
Our hearts are broken, our tears flow so freely and our souls feel empty. Michael,
you left us with so many happy memories but the memories can never take your
place. We know you and your uncle Sam are saving a place for those who cherished
you the most.
Two weeks before he died, Chuck called me on the phone. He was excited to tell
me he was joining the National Guard. He had begun to think about being a History
Teacher. He planned to attend school after basic training. He also mentioned
a new girlfriend. He was pretty crazy about her but wanted to give things a
little more time before making her "meet the parents". Still, we made plans
to meet for lunch once July wound down. He thought we might all get together
and told me not to worry, he had a job and would help pay the check. The first
time I met the young lady he was so crazy about was as she cried herself senseless
over his casket. She laid a broken heart chain and necklace across his hands.
She wore the mating half around her slender neck. Her courage in court helped
to solidify the deal that sent a drug dealer to prison. I hope she, and Chuck's
other friends, make the right decision and swear off drug use so we may never
see their faces on these pages.
Everyone ever touched by Miranda. This will be a tribute to the life she lived.
She was the most remarkable and inspirational woman I have ever known. I was
in awe of my own daughter. Even as her mother, her beauty took my breath away,
and as she walked this earth from her crawling stages to adulthood her beauty
from the inside amazed me. Miranda loved about every living thing and each friend
she had she made her relationship with them special and unique.
Jamie was a very loving son, brother, grandson, nephew, boyfriend and friend..
Most importantly he was the best father anyone could have asked for.. Even though
he was only 16 when he was taken away from us from his so called friend, he
did everything for his daughter and mother of his daughter that he had
asked to marry him when he turns 18.. Jamie was the type of kid that would take
his shirt off his back for anyone that needs it.. Jamie died on April
23, 2008.. If only his so called friend (29 yrs old), his mother and the other
people at the home called 911 instead of waiting 3 hours, he would still be
here with us today.. Jamie's dad passed away Nov 2005 and he had a hard time
dealing with loosing his father and could not believe he was gone.. Well now
Jamie is at home with his dad..Until we meet again... I am proud of you my son..Love
you always and forever, Mommy
Kaylin Marie Mathews was born on a Tuesday March 1, 1988. Kaylin was my oldest
child and my only daughter. She could play the piano, guitar, and drums and
loved to sing. She had been "spinning records" the last few years and loved
to mix music. She had been working as a d.j. at the time of her death and was
very good. Kaylin was an only child for 71/2 years. She has one brother and
one sister. She was a talented writer. She made jewelry and she could draw.
There was nothing that my baby couldn't do, if she wanted to. Kaylin was left
to die in a ravine on June 30, 2008. She was found on July 1, 2008. Her date
of death is listed as a Tuesday July 1, 2008. She was 20 years old. I miss her
every second of every day. The world lost an amazing talent and an amazing young
woman. I lost a part of my heart.
R.J. was truly a blessing in our lives. He was the kind of son that most parents
only dream of having. He always respected and obeyed his parents and never got
in trouble. RJ was never in trouble in his life RJ always called home to let
us know where he was and when he would be home. When he was missing and we couldn't
reach him on his cell phone, we knew immediately something terrible was wrong.
This is a nightmare that no parent should have to go through and we are living
it. Our concern is not what we are going through, but what our son had to go
through in his final moments of life.
William Michael Grandchamp better known as Billy, was born Nov 7,1979. HE was
a only child. Billy had many friends. Billy often told his friends that his
MOM was his best friend. Billy liked to collect sports attire like jerseys and
sports caps.Everything he wore had to match. He was meticulous with his clothing,
car, and home. Although, Billy had no children of his own he loved children.
He told me his greatest wish was to find a good girl and settle down and have
a family. That seemed to be very important to him. Even at a young age he had
a gift with children. Billy's friends have always commented on how good he was
with their children and how their children loved him. Billy was loved by so
many people. He had over 800 friends and family members at his wake. Billy will
be greatly missed by all his family and friends.
Chase lived life spontaneously with the freedom of a butterfly – a free spirit
& soul – no one could hold him down, except his baby girl. She was his LIFE.
There wasn’t anything he wouldn’t do for her, including getting clean. Chase
was clean 1.5 yrs, after 6 months in residential rehab in New Orleans, continued
with NA meetings, substance abuse group counseling, and sought out a Navy recruiter
who told him all he would have to do to be eligible. He seemed to be on his
way, until he fell off the wagon 12 days out of jail. Turning to heroin again
to deal with stress was the mistake of his life. “Chase’s Story” is shared with
you on his main page. Thanks for taking time to read it. Sincere and heartfelt
thanks to the FDLFD Family for taking us under their wings. “They will sing
me to them, and I will hear.” ~RIP Chase~4evrYng~1985-2009
Katelynn Lillian Porter, 16, of West Elgin, was killed in a car crash on Dunborough
Rd. in Elgin County. “In loving memory of Katelynn Porter. 12/12/09. 9:40 p.m.”
is written between two hearts on the roadside memorial, a makeshift cross. Porter
was a student at West Elgin secondary school, where officials are trying to
come to grips with the news of her death, especially so close to Christmas.
Tony passed away 10 days after his 16th birthday. He asked permission to spend the night at his friends and I told him yes. I told him" I love you" and he replied "I love you too Mom. Tony was the kid who wanted to make everyone laugh. He had such a wonderful sense of humor and a big heart. He would talk to his friends for hours trying to help them solve their problems. He was a loving big brother, and a wonderful son. He would help you with anything without even being asked. Tony was an extremely intelligent child. He was always placed in advanced classes. A week before he passed we received a letter from Columbine informing us that Tony was nominated to participate in their advanced English Program. He had a gift for writing stories.
She loved all things technical and mechanical with her older brother Ian and fashion and decorating days with her older sister Genevieve. She loved Gothic country art, the workings of the human body, video games, driving and her new tattoo machine. She loved swimming and surfing. She loved all things living and loved her dog Timpleton and her parrot Thermopolis. She had a strong heart and soul, was an independent and progressive thinker, open minded and a will power like no one else. Her favorite place to go was Barnes and Noble.
Vivianna Satterfield was 15 years old! Vivi was the type of young lady that put other people in front of herself. She would always say "Peace and Love".
Kelli Laine Lewis is my only daughter. Kelli died when she was 18 after attending a party hosted by 3 adults who offered a $5.00 entry fee to come and drink all you wanted. A pretty tempting offer for teens not old enough to buy alcohol.
He went out THE FIRST TIME to celebrate being "LEGAL" with a creep he considered a friend (even though we warned him this guy was not a true friend). My son did not drive so he was picked up about ten thirty. Even when it was obvious my son was having difficulties this creep brought him to his own house , which is 4 houses away for a few hours, and dropped him off here at home in the middle of the night WITHOUT KNOCKING OR CALLING OR WAKING US UP. We found Ben in his bed the next morning when we tried to wake him.
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National Friendship Day is on the first Sunday in August
Women’s Friendship Day is on the third Sunday in September
International Friendship Month is February
Old Friends, New Friends Week is the third week of May
August 6 is International friendship Day . Its a day when
you realize the true worth of your friend. Friendship is a
place where dreams are nurtured ,
shared, celebrated, a place where happiness begins.
Friendship Day occurs on the first Sunday of August every
year. Friendship Day gives us an opportunity to recognize
the contribution our friends in make making our life all the
The first Sunday in August was proclaimed National
Friendship Day by the U.S. Congress in
1935, and remains a tradition observed in many countries and
cultures. In 1997, the United Nations named Winnie the Pooh
as the world’s Ambassador of Friendship.
Apparently, there are several friendship holidays,
of which fall on established dates.
are many ways in which the friendship day is celebrated. The
most popular way in which the friendship day is celebrated
Giving the tangible gifts like flowers, chocolates,
friendship bands, cakes and so on and also intangible
gifts like sending messages, poems and more.
Writing and sending E cards to your friend
Send A friend An E Card
November 20th to December 20th
SURVIVORS OF HOMICIDE VICTIMS AWARENESS
November 20th to December 20th
In collaboration with SHOC-Survivors of Homicide Organized for
This yearly observance of Survivors of Homicide Victims
Awareness Month provides a platform where, as a nation, we can learn
how to better assist families who have been brutally impacted by
violence and to support the efforts of survivors to inform our
violence prevention, peacemaking and social justice movement.
We need this awareness month because our institutions and our
society are uncomfortable dealing with survivors of homicide
victims. We don’t know what to say to them and often we don’t
know what to do for them.
"Reflections of Love, Visions of Hope
Unsolicited comments from Compassionate Friends who
attended the 32nd National Conference held in Portland:
It was an amazing experience. I was in a very dark, sad
place when I left home to fly to Portland. When I came home, I felt
a glimmer of hope in the possibilities. I learned so much. Met some
sweet, caring people. At the risk of sounding overly dramatic, it
changed me. Thank you, my Compassionate Friends.
Best thing I've ever done! Thank you to all the friends
I made at the conference. You all inspire me! The memory boards were
overwhelming. It was easy to only see the face of my own grief. Now
I see all the beautiful faces of yours. I will forever be linked to
you. I love you.
A national conference of The Compassionate Friends is
unlike any other conference you may ever attend. It is a place where
you can go and know that you truly are not alone as you travel your
grief journey. Every person comes for the same reason—a child has
died. It is a place where “friendship, understanding, and hope” are
more than just words.
For over three decades The Compassionate Friends has held
national conferences in different locations, from the east coast to
the west coast, from north to south. Today it’s normal to have
1100-1400 bereaved parents, siblings, and grandparents attend. Of
that number, it usually is the first conference for nearly 40
percent. Those new to TCF conferences wear a special butterfly
sticker so that others may notice and give them special hugs.
Everyone feels they are in a place where they belong. We often say
that those at the conference are friends you simply have not yet
At each conference, there are many activities, but you
decide what is right for you. There are more than 100 workshops (but
don’t think these are work—they’re really a time for learning and
sharing). Many areas of grief are covered by the workshops. There
are workshops for bereaved parents, siblings, and grandparents. And
there will be many workshops for those who have no surviving
children. You’ll find a hospitality room, a reflection room, the
Butterfly Boutique, and a complete and stocked bookstore. There are
very interesting and well-known speakers who address the Opening
Session, the Friday afternoon banquet, the Saturday evening banquet,
and the Sunday closing. You’ll marvel at the quality of
entertainment geared for those attending. There’s also a special
candle lighting ceremony to conclude the Saturday evening banquet.
If you like a more intimate time with others, join in the evening
sharing sessions of your choice.
But don’t miss the Walk to Remember Sunday at 8 a.m. prior
to the closing. As many as 1300-1400 carry the names of more than
10,000 children from across the country who will always be
remembered. Some fly in from across the country just to participate
in the Walk!
The Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle
held annually the second Sunday in December, this year December 12,
unites family and friends around the globe as they light candles for
one hour to honor and remember children who have died at any age
from any cause. As candles are lit at 7 p.m. local time, creating a
virtual wave of light, hundreds of thousands of persons commemorate
and honor the memories of children in a way that transcends all
ethnic, cultural, religious, and political boundaries.
Now believed to be the largest mass candle
lighting on the globe, the Worldwide Candle Lighting, a gift from
TCF to the bereavement community, creates a virtual 24-hour wave of
light as it moves from time zone to time zone. Hundreds of formal
candle lighting events are held and thousands of informal candle
lightings are conducted in homes as families gather in quiet
remembrance of children who have died, but will never be forgotten.
The Worldwide Candle Lighting started in
the United States in 1997 as a small
Internet observance but has since swelled in numbers as word has
spread throughout the world of the remembrance.
The 2007 Worldwide Candle Lighting saw
information on services received from 24 countries outside the
United States. Joining TCF last
year were chapters of several bereavement organizations including
MISS, Twinless Twins, MADD, Parents of Murdered Children, and BPUSA
and services were held in all 50 states plus
and Puerto Rico.
A Remembrance Book is available
during the event at TCF's USA national
website. In that short one day span, thousands of messages are
received and posted each year from every U.S. state and Washington
D.C., every territory, as well as dozens of other countries. Some
are in foreign languages.
Here in the United States, publicity about
the event is widespread, being featured over the years in Dear Abby,
Parade Magazine, Ann Landers column, Guideposts
magazine, Annie’s Mailbox, and literally hundreds of U.S.
newspapers, dozens of television stations, and numerous websites and
Please help spread the word about this tremendous
event and invite anyone who is unable to attend a service to light a
candle at 7 p.m. for one hour wherever they may be.
All allied bereavement organizations, churches, funeral homes,
hospices and formal and informal bereavement groups are invited to
join in the remembrance.
SEPTEMBER 25, 2007
We Are the Broken
We are the broken
Our lives have changed
Our children taken,
We're filled with pain.
We look to you
To show you care.
At first you support us
Then you're not there.
We see you out
You see us too
You avoid us
That hurts too.
What did we do
For you to leave?
Our children died
Now we grieve.
We put on masks
When you are near
We scream inside
But you don't hear.
You tell us, "Move on.
Get on with your life."
We simply nod
Your words piercing like a knife.
We long to say our child's name
The one you want unspoken
So you don't call because you're
Of we, who are the broken.
By: Kim Lasater
Mother of Kaylin Mathews